5 lifechanging tips to secure a high value man

“I am the table” is a term you hear more often when women are asked “what they bring to the table.” I am not here to deceive you; I will be honest with you. But if you listen carefully, you will be more likely to attract a high-value man. Not only will he treat you well, but he will also make your life more fulfilling. As a man, I will reveal the secrets that will make it easier to discover and secure a quality man.

Do you know what a high-value man is? Perhaps you refer to him as your “dreamprince,” but what principles underpin a man of that caliber? What characterizes him? It’s important to know this before dating. That is why I will first tell you what exactly a high-value man is. Afterwards, you will be able to identify high-value men and recognize those who only pose a threat to you. You are more likely to find him, and I will show you the secret behind what a high-value man really wants in a woman. This will help you attract a long-lasting quality man for an everlasting relationship.

Traits of a High Value Man

There are certain myths about a high value man; no, it doesn’t mean it’s the handsome, confident guy with a nice physique. Although he might have some confidence, a high value man doesn’t need to have a nice physique or the looks. It’s important to note that such notions are superficial. He will care about his body and have a certain level of confidence in himself; he doesn’t need to be extra good-looking.

But he will be a hard-working man; he has his drive, his goal in life. This doesn’t have to be “getting rich” or having a high ranked position in a company. No, it means he has a straight path he wants to go and works for it. Stagnation is not the path of a high value man. But also, this doesn’t mean he works all the time, as a workaholic would be an excessive way of thinking. Yes, he works hard, but he also cares about his family and about you.

His dreams and goals are important to him; he won’t give them up so easily. It also means he will not live the hedonistic life. Good for you, since a man that goes from girl to girl is not a high value man. Remember, he chases his goals, not his pleasure. If you meet a guy that just wants sex, that only thinks about the one thing, he is not a high value man. Give him up, because he is no good for you. He’ll bring only pain and damage into your life. Avoid him at all costs, even if you really like him.

Next to those traits, he will be empathic. He cares for you, your emotions, and your dreams. He is a true family man who listens to your concerns. A man that shows you disrespect is not a high value man; avoid him. You can count on him when you’re sick, sad, or need him. In this moment he will also pause his work because he knows he can go back to it with you on his side.

5 essential ways to make him stay

Chemistry, same interests, and common goals and values are not the only important things in a relationship. A high value man will seek a woman who has certain traits that are more rare. At least today they are rare. He will avoid manipulative girls with red flags and excessive mental issues. If you exhibit these traits, it is still possible to improve them. Work on your mental health, fix your red flags, and improve your character so you can become a better human and woman.

However, there are 5 traits a high value man seeks in you that are the most important and often overlooked. If you carefully consider these traits and find that they resonate with you, congratulations! You have a lot of traits that make you valuable enough to attract and secure a quality man. This means you can have a long-term relationship that will last. But if not, you can still change them.

1. You Respect him and yourself

A high value man will know when you disrespect him; he has 0% tolerance against any kind of disrespect. From the moment you know him until eternity, you need to respect and trust him. Let’s say you date him, but you come too late. This is not necessarily disrespect, but you will need to apologize and give him a good reason. If you always come late out of your own will, he will someday notice. It’s just one example of how a woman can disrespect him.

There are so many ways, and we won’t have enough time to talk about all of them. However, always use the golden rule: “Will I want him to do this to me?” If the answer is no, then it probably is disrespectful, and you should refrain from doing it. But whatever you do, don’t talk bad about him behind his back or even in front of him. It’s okay to talk about relationship issues, but don’t gossip about him. A high value man can notice these issues, and it could be the end between you two.

Also, you need to respect yourself as well. If he loves you, he won’t like it if you talk bad about yourself. So work on your mental health and your self-value. If you can’t love yourself, how can you expect him to love you? Don’t take me wrong; this doesn’t mean you need to be super confident in yourself. We all have insecurities. Heck, even famous people have those. But work on your self-love and value your mind, body, and time.

This will also be displayed by your actions. If you hook up with other men, especially low-quality men, this will not be liked a lot by the high value man you want. Early on in life, you have to decide what you want: one high-value man for a lifetime or many low-quality men for a short time. The decision is nothing to judge on, nor is his decision to not take you because of it. So respect yourself and don’t do it or stop with it. Then move on from your past, but be honest about it. Only then will you attract your dreamprince.

2. You care for him and support him

Every man basically dreams of a feminine girl who cares for him and loves him. The masculine, independent woman is not his type. In simple terms, he will not care about your career. Instead, he cares about your personality as a feminine woman. Some might say this is an old bias, but it’s the harsh truth. For those of you who don’t follow these traits, change is still possible.

Feminin doesn’t mean you need to wear fancy dresses and walk like a lady. No, it is entirely character. It can’t be limited to one trait; it could be any feminine or girly trait you possess that he will like about you. Show him you care about his emotions, his troubles, and most importantly, about him.

A high value man will have his ambitions and dreams; support him in his work. If he comes home after hard work, make him feel comfortable, cook for him, or do other things that show care and support. In the beginning of dating, you can display that by listening to his hobbies, his goals, and his dreams. Even if it doesn’t interest you, show that you care.

3. You have a growth Mindset

Growth is essential to attracting a quality man and making a relationship successful. A high value man has a growth mindset, so he will expect the same from you. You need to be able to change as a person, not for him, but for yourself. Learning and understanding life is an important aspect of that growth. That includes mental, physical, and personality growth.

Keep in mind, this does not mean you need to be perfect or already a finished “product.” Now it means you are able to grow for yourself and with him. He is not interested in dating a girl who remains stagnant or mired in the past. Move on from your past, if you never did. Learn to look into the future; don’t just live in the present.

Always improve yourself. This is the crucial step you need to take. Work on your body, mental health, and personality. You get angry way too easily in a discussion? Meditate to learn to be calmer. But keep in mind, this doesn’t mean you need to change yourself to someone you are not. If you are not comfortable in the direction you are going, this is not growth. This would be an infestation of your own personality. If he expects this from you, he is not your dreamprince. In fact, he is not even a high value man.

4. Loyalty is not Optional

There is one trait that is really important to talk about. Without it, a high value man won’t respect you. It’s a key factor to be loyal at all times. Don’t betray your man; if you do so, you stab him in the heart. If he discovers your betrayal, it effectively ends your relationship. And believe me, very likely, he will notice. Going with a high value man will mean you just go with that one man for the rest of your life.

However, loyalty is more than just not sleeping with other men. It goes way further than that. Don’t flirt with another guy; this will be considered cheating. Don’t chat with a guy that clearly “wants in your pants.” Even if you consider him a friend, beware that many low quality men won’t respect your relationship. A friendship needs to be a friendship from both sides, or it will just be the friend zone.

Next to all those things, your actions will also show disloyalty. Certain traits that a high value man is just not attracted to. Are you a party girl? He will not like it. Yes, sometimes going in a club or dancing can be totally okay, but if you go there weekly without your man, he will dislike it. So don’t expect to find your dreamprince in a club or worse, in a bar. He doesn’t live a hedonistic lifestyle, so he expects the same from you! So keep clubbing low and don’t hook up with random men. He doesn’t do either of those.

Clothing is also important. The way you dress could make him judge you immediately. Many girls may find this offensive, yet it’s an undeniable truth. A high value man doesn’t want you to display your body openly to other men. So it makes sense that if you approach him while wearing very revealing clothing, it might not secure the relationship you want. Even if you believe your attire could entice him, it may not be the best choice. Maintain balance in your attire to attract a quality man. It’s not about showing skin in general; it’s about the extreme of it. So if you want to find a quality man, a change in dress dressstyle might be necessary.

5. Communication and Efford

The last point is important in dating, relationships, and marriage. It is not optional; without it, you will never have a lasting relationship. It will always end the moment the honeymoon phase is over. To avoid this, work on communication and your efforts. Two essential traits he will need to do, and you as well. A relationship always is two people working together, never just one.

A high value man will want a woman that communicates with him. That is what you need to do. Whatever is in your mind, talk with him about it. If you have a problem about yourself, your life, or him, talk about it. Don’t just expect him to know why you are mad or sad; let him know. This will make stuff way easier for both of you.

And when you date a guy, be yourself and tell who you are. Don’t lie about yourself; instead, be truthful. Communicate your wishes and dreams in a relationship. Tell him what you want and more. He will love it when you communicate with him. This makes both of you happier and more fulfilled. But if you lie to him or simply don’t tell him, you might end up with the wrong guy. The moment he notices the lies, he will drift away from you. And if you already did lie, it is better to tell the truth now or risk losing him forever. Could you risk that?

Now the last thing you will need is effort; work for the relationship and show him you care about it. This could be anything. You could take him on a date, make him cookies, or, most importantly, take action when there is an issue. Effective communication is crucial. Whether you’re unsure about dating, stressed, or have a relationship issue, take action.

Don’t ignore the problem; love needs your effort. You will need to fight for it, not him alone. And if you ignored an issue right now, go and take action. Don’t ignore him or ghost him; don’t be afraid of the action it needs to save your relationship. It will be worth it, then, in the end you not only got a high value man, but also a loving relationship that will last forever. Someone who truly could be called your dreamprince.

Conclusion

Dating a high value man is not easy, but possible. Once you know how you can identify him, you will know how to avoid a non quality man. He will be empathic but has his own goals in life. Instead he searches for growth and genuine connection. Respect him, treat him well, care for him, and support him. But also, be as loyal as you can be, communicate, and put effort into the relationship. Don’t expect everything to go automatically, especially in the beginning. But if you follow the advice I give, it will be possible to find the dreamprince you want and attract him. A long-lasting relationship is what you want and what you will get.

What to Do

→ Find the right guy, avoid low quality men

→ He will be loyal, empathic, ambitious and confident

→ Respect him and yourself

→ Care for him and support him

→ Have a groth Mindset

→ Be always loyal

→ Communicate with him

→ Invest into the relationship with efford

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