5 easy ways to gain confidence in yourself

5 easy ways to gain confidence in yourself

My lack of self-confidence has always been one of the biggest problems I have had on my journey to becoming a better version of myself. You probably have the same problems that I did—fears of addressing people, talking with charisma, or speaking in front of people in particular. On the latter, I have a lot to improve myself, but at least I am not a bunch of nerves. But since I’ve made good progress on the subject, today I’m going to show you ways you can gain confidence and thus speak to people much better. In particular, your confidence in yourself should then increase, because this is the principle of speaking safely with others.

1. Replace negative thoughts with self-awareness and a positive mindset.

The first step towards greater self-confidence is to get to know yourself better. Without reference to reality, you cannot form healthy self-confidence, but you will probably just pull yourself down. So try to figure out who you are first. What do you want to do in life? What do people really think of you? In the past, I always pulled myself down because I had a very bad opinion of myself. But over time, I developed a better mindset—an open and energetic mindset—without unnecessarily talking badly about myself. In addition to having a realistic opinion of yourself, you should also replace negative thoughts with positive ones. It’s probably more common for you to see something critical of yourself. This is too big, this is too small, etc. But one thing you have to be aware of is that most things are hardly noticed by other people. No one is bothered by a couple of pimples, not-quite-perfect hair, or other concerns. Therefore, try to get rid of these worries and instead replace them with positive thoughts. Something like “this and that look good on me today.” Do this every day in front of the mirror, and learn to accept your little corners and edges.

2. Gain a healthy relationship with yourself.

You cannot just enter a relationship with others and let them accept you; you also should accept yourself. This means not only that you learn to love yourself but also that you take care of your body. A balance between “body positivity” and look-maximizing means you should improve the things that can be improved and accept everything that cannot be changed. Excessively caring about your appearance is just as toxic as taking everything in itself completely. All that matters is that you develop a healthy love of yourself and never be ashamed of any of your weaknesses. It’s totally okay to have weaknesses. In the long term, you should work on yourself and care for your body through both exercise, a good diet, and skin care. If you develop this into a habit, you will progress faster, and your self-confidence will rise.

3. Get out there.

To really gain more self-confidence and charisma, there is no way around real interactions. Even if it is difficult at first, you have to overcome yourself to make progress. Only by jumping over your own shadow can you develop true self-confidence. Of course, it will be difficult at first, regardless of where your current limits lie. But if you keep at it, you will see success bit by bit. Each time, your boundary will shift a little so that you can communicate really well in the future. Self-confidence, charisma, and diplomacy are all things that anyone can learn, whether introverted or extroverted. Some people clearly have a start bonus, but with some effort, you will get to equally good levels of charisma.

4. Building charismatic skills

However, in order to make real progress, it is important not just to be blind to it. Even though it will be equally successful. But if you want to succeed faster, you should proceed with strategy. You learn this by doing individual charisma exercises. Only through active training will you get better. So try to actively pursue all the different types of charisma that are important to you personally. Flirting, persuasive, humorous, good listening, encouraging, compassionate, giving and accepting compliments, speaking in front of many people, standing up for yourself. These are all examples of the ones you can work on individually. To really make progress, I suggest you keep a notebook only for your charismatic achievements. Write down all your successes, your failures, and your problems, and think of solutions to them. Every time you write something down, you’ll learn from it. That’s how you’re getting better, bit by bit. Because the road from shyness to being a charismatic person is long and stony. For this journey, you need courage, so touch your heart and overcome your fears.

5. Take care of your mental needs and health.

The last point is considered to be an important support for your path. As you go for improvement in uncomfortable environments, you will always need a secure shelter. A place where you feel comfortable and safe. There, you can relax from uncomfortable and unpleasant environments; you can meditate and reflect in peace. Meditation can be a good support because it will calm you down. For this, please download the app Medito, which is available for free in the Play Store or Apple Store. In this zone, you can also use your notebook to reflect on your everyday life, your success, and everything else you’re thinking about. Sometimes, if something sneaks through your head and you can’t get rid of the thought, write it down in a notebook. Then scratch or burn the thought so you can let it go. This safe shelter will help you increase your self-confidence and gain more charisma.

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